October 12, 2020
Everything in our universe is made up of energy - including us. We are all connected, and this has been evidenced more than ever since this past March. We tend to absorb energy from other people and our environment, and empaths are particularly sensitive to this exchange. This can be a good thing if we’re surrounded by loving people who are grounded and secure. However, in addition to the changing season that can affect the state of our well-being (less sunlight, colder temps), we are faced with the additional challenge of being six months into a pandemic as well as increasing societal tensions - all factors which have energy-depleting effects that can throw all of us off our game.
How do we protect our energy amid all of these challenging circumstances? Pretty much the same way we would at any other time, but we just have to be a little more vigilant to keep our energy up, our vibes high, and immune systems strong.
If you don’t already have healthy boundaries in place, be patient with yourself while you create some - this isn’t an overnight process. Healthy boundaries can look like:
- Practicing self-awareness and learning how to listen to your gut
- Knowing your own limits of what you are willing to accept, and lovingly making your limits understood to those testing them
- Not doing things to please others in an attempt to gain acceptance and love
- Understanding that it’s not your job to fix everything for everyone (learning the difference between helping and enabling can be a tough lesson, too)
- Acknowledging that your feelings are valid
- Removing yourself if you don’t feel physically or emotionally safe
- It’s okay to say “no” (and it’s even okay to not provide an excuse as to why)
Give yourself grace if you don’t already have these boundaries in place. Many of us weren’t raised in an environment where healthy boundaries were modeled or respected. This takes time and practice, and life gives us plenty of opportunity for that! Putting boundaries in place when the people in your life are not used to you having them might change the dynamics of your relationships and can be an extra challenge because they might not be understood or received well. It’s worth the sting of disapproval to eventually gain the peace you deserve in your life. Peace is actually our natural state. Showing yourself love, kindness and respect will help to get you there, and provide a guide to others of how you’d like to be treated.